Saving Men From Themselves – Talking Men’s Mental Health with Traver Boehm – Episode #55


Traver Boehm is the author of Today I Rise, and Man UNcivilized. He’s a men’s coach and the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement. Traver wants to redefine the way men experience their masculinity, by blending the primal elements of manhood with massive doses of consciousness.

In this episode, Traver joins me to discuss the challenges men are facing today: from mass depression and suicide, to mass shootings, to fatherlessness and the lack of men’s initiation culture. Please share this episode with men who you think might need it.

In this episode we talk about:

  • What’s going on with men and humanity as a whole.

  • Mass shootings in the US and Canada.

  • The lockdown’s impact on outwardly expressing violence.

  • Addressing grief in men.

  • Appropriate anger towards men vs. men needing compassion.

  • Finding roots of behavior in adulthood linked to childhood.

  • Free will vs. life choices.

  • Privilege and the lack of understanding for those who struggle.

  • Social media: a double edged sword.

  • Shadows, wounding, and trauma.

  • Turning inward: looking at pain and grief.

  • Finding the root of a problem vs. attacking the branches.

  • Suicide vs. homicide & mental illness vs. addiction.

  • How do we deal with men feeling collectively lost?

  • Redefining the role of men in society.

  • Intentional men’s groups: support, accountability, and healing.

  • Pros and cons of finding like minded connections.

  • The magic of being seen.

  • The masculine’s desire to be challenged.

  • Confronting fears.

  • The lack of humanity in society.

  • The #MeToo movement and #NotAllMen.

  • Men and women doing “the work.”

  • What’s behind Traver’s mantra, “Let others be safer as I walk among them”?

  • Living by a code.

  • 3 things men can do today to turn inward and start healing wounds.

  • The fulfillment of doing “the work.”

  • The challenges of being a policeman today. Shout out to the protectors.

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Traver’s Bio:

Drawing upon an eclectic background ranging from professional bodyguarding and Mixed Martial Arts to Traditional Chinese Medicine and meditation, Traver also teaches people to skillfully use the inevitable pain of their lives as fuel for growth and positive change.

In 2016 after losing a pregnancy, his marriage, and his business partnership all within weeks of each other, he created a radical social experiment and spent the next 12 months as if it were his last year to live, aptly naming it “The Year to Live Project.” A few of the highlights of the year include:

  • Volunteering with the dying as a hospice worker

  • Spending 28 days in complete isolation and pitch black darkness in Guatemala.

  • Living in the frigid Utah wilderness for a month with only a knife, a water bottle, and a blanket

After publishing Today I Rise and receiving an influx of calls specifically from men, Traver began guiding men through their own journey into an actualized version masculinity by asking them these two questions:

“Are you leading or being led?” And, “What are you wounds and what are you doing to heal them?”

 When so many said this way of thinking and living was counterintuitive to how they were taught “civilized” men should act, the movement was born.

Now men all over the world have deemed themselves UNcivilized as they wake up to meditate, feel into their hearts, and train their bodies. Men who can fight, fuck, feed, and feel. And do all four well.

When not teaching workshops or radically shifting the way men experience their masculinity, Traver can be found chewing on his thumbnail in front of his laptop, chasing surf around the globe, or being reminded that yoga is a lot harder than it looks.

For more information please visit his website

Find him on Instagram: @traverboehm

And all podcast platforms at The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm