Dr. Scott Lyons is the author of the book “Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others”. He joins me for a discussion about all addictions – from alcohol to sex to food, and of course drama – and how they are formed. We also talk about how to heal from addiction by addressing the root.
In this episode we dive into:
- The origins of addiction and how to define it (Disease or no disease?)
- Medical model vs. Humanistic model view of addiction.
- The opposite of addiction is connection to self and others.
- Finding comfort in filling voids and dissociation.
- The deadliness of loneliness.
- Why do we experience traumas differently?
- The defense mechanism of denial.
- The link between addiction and a fear of intimacy.
- What addicted to drama looks like?
- Attachment to unnecessary turmoil and nervous system activation.
- Making sense vs. making sensation.
- How are you unconsciously creating childhood patterns in your adult life?
- Exaggerated responses vs. an inner sense of normalcy.
- Assessing currencies of love from childhood.
- The separation of process addictions and the necessities of being human.
- Disrupting your inner peace with the “revving reflex”.
- What does it look like to recover from addiction and heal?
- Building tolerance for ease and connection.
- Creating a narrative around withdrawal symptoms.
- Trauma lives in your nervous system and is a felt experience.
- MDMA therapy and trauma.
- Is it possible to escape drama in the capitalist world we live in?
- How do you support someone who is addicted to drama?
- Mirror neuron responses.
- Taking responsibility for the role you play in relationships.
